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The Kinder, Gentler Way to Divorce

What Is Collaborative Law?

Collaborative Law is a powerful, binding, yet non-litigation approach to solving legal problems. It takes "going to court" off the table.

It is highly effective in Family Law, especially divorce proceedings. Collaborative Law is the better way to solve any dispute involving children, parents, anyone needing to nurture/maintain relationships long after the legal action is done.

Perils of litigation :

In litigation, each side prepares a case to persuade the judge that only her/his view has merit. Trust and respect are often shattered by airing each party's weaknesses, failures, misdeeds and mistakes in the often embarrassing public forum of a courtroom. Further, the parties are essentially asking strangers to make decisions about their children and property.

After such a wrenching experience, a respectful post-divorce partnership has little chance of succeeding, much less nurturing the children.

Hope of collaboration :

To resolve a case through Collaborative Law, the parties engage in a series of settlement meetings outside the courthouse. Each party is represented by her/his own attorney trained in Collaborative Law practice.

Plus, as the clients use the team model, the sessions incorporate a neutral communication/counseling specialist and a neutral financial expert - both also trained in the Collaborative Law process - to serve as unbiased consultants to all parties. All agree to abide by strict rules of communication to facilitate courtesy, respect and results. The parties, their attorneys and the neutral specialists are encouraged to speak freely during meetings.

All work together as a team to share documents and set goals, agendas and realistic deadlines. All work toward serving the interests of all parties, especially the children. If other experts are needed, say, to appraise the value of a home and the costs of needed home improvements, the parties can agree to hire one neutral expert for each intended specialized purpose.

The process works

Every Collaborative Law attorney is trained to listen to and serve his/her own client's needs and interests. At the same time, each attorney also gives due consideration to the other party's needs and interests.

Although each attorney represents her/his own client first and foremost, attorneys and neutral advisers focus on the big picture: resolving problems to the optimal benefit of all clients and their children.

How Does Collaborative Law Differ From Mediation?

Collaborative Law is not a mediation tool, though mediation may be used in the Collaborative process. Collaborative Law differs in crucial ways:

Your attorney is always with you.

A Collaborative client works with his/her lawyer every step of the way.

In mediation, the attorneys are often not allowed in part or all of the actual mediation, and the parties have the option of not having counsel. Even with attorneys present, the Texas "caucus" model of mediation has a mediator

shuttling between two rooms while the parties work through their respective attorneys, but don't meet face to face. A mediator cannot represent either

party and may not even be a lawyer. If not, the mediator cannot give legal advice. Nor can he/she draft the documents or finalize the case It can be awkward, at best.

In Collaborative Law, the attorneys, a neutral communication facilitator and a neutral financial specialist form the basic team to assist the clients in reaching a non-litigated settlement. All negotiations take place during scheduled meetings with both parties and the entire team present.

It's a team effort throughout the process.

Every meeting has a specific agenda formulated in advance; so, there are no surprises and everyone is prepared to discuss the scheduled topics

The threat to "take it to court" is diminished

In mediation, parties represented by counsel may keep their attorneys and move on to litigation with information gained through the mediation.

By contrast, if the Collaborative Law process breaks down, Collaborative attorneys must withdraw and the parties must retain new counsel.

Documents and information gathered during the process cannot be used by successor counsel in any litigation unless both parties agree or unless it's discoverable in the normal legal process

Both Collaborative parties are put at the disadvantage of "starting over," which will take its toll financially and emotionally. As a result, there is built-in motivation to stick with the Collaborative Law process, even when the going gets tough.

Further, there is no motivation for Collaborative attorneys to sabotage the process in order to make more money in litigation, and 100% of each Collaborative attorney's efforts go toward settlement.

Since more than 95% of all family law disputes are settled outside of court, focusing all your time and money on settlement just makes sense

Who Should Use Collaborative Law?

Nearly every divorcing parent, and the children, can benefit substantially.

Collaborative Law is the answer for any client interested in resolving a case privately, "outside of the system," in an amicable and respectful setting. Any Collaborative settlement, though, is legally binding on all parties.

You're smart enough; you're good enough...

This process provides a safe, yet empowering environment for clients who might be uncomfortable stating their position in the public arena.

In those cases wherein one partner appears to hold more influence, power or information than the other partner, Collaborative Law balances the equation for all parties, including the children.

Think about it:

Your attorney is at your side to help gather and interpret financial information, decipher documents and explain the law Neutral professionals give you expert guidance on both the emotional and financial issues that are so intimately intertwined with the legal issues in any divorce. If additional help is needed outside of the team, the team members know the best resources and can refer you to a reliable accountant, other financial experts, a child psychologist or other appropriate therapist, among other professionals.

Your Collaborative team can give you the confidence needed to fully participate in problem-solving and decision-making.

What Roles Do Attorneys Play In The Collaborative Process?

Attorneys have an ethical obligation to represent their clients vigorously and completely.

Your attorney is still your advocate

Although it may appear that your attorney is being sympathetic to your partner's point of view, remember that your attorney is modeling respectful behavior and listening.

Affirming what your partner says does not mean that your attorney agrees with your partner's position or that he/she is abandoning your position. Because all four of you are trying to solve the same problem, your partner or your partner's attorney might just have an idea worth considering.

Communications between you and your attorney are confidential unless you instruct your attorney otherwise. However, because the goal of Collaborative Law is frank, candid and honest negotiation, you should understand going in that the process doesn't support withholding information.

What Roles Do Neutral Professionals Play In The Collaborative Process?

Neutral professionals help the clients navigate through complex issues.

Divorce has three "estates": the psychological estate, the financial estate and the legal estate.

Any seasoned divorce lawyer will tell you that divorce is more about emotional and financial issues than legal issues. In the Collaborative process, each of the three "estates" are addressed by a specialist. This process treats the "whole" client by bringing to the table the requisite expertise for each area of need.

Most Lawyers are not trained to handle the emotional issues of a family going through divorce. Bringing in a neutral, trained mental health professional can help manage the clients and children through the intense ups and downs and traumatic emotional decisions inherent in every divorce.

The mental health professional does not provide therapy. Rather, his/her job is to assist in the management of emotions, to help keep the process on track and to reduce the fallout which can be caused by "out of control" emotions.

Additionally, although lawyers are knowledgeable about financial issues, they are not certified divorce financial planners. Having a neutral financial expert saves time and money by having one pro gather the financial information, prepare spreadsheets and help think through the myriad of financial issues raised by the creation of two households from what was one.

Often there's one spouse who tended the family finances while the other never gained an accurate perception of the estate. The neutral financial expert helps level the playing field.

Having neutral specialists to facilitate resolving the issues and impasses in each area of need enhances trust and moves the process along.

How Do I Choose A Collaborative Law Attorney?

If you choose to follow the Collaborative way, you should hire an attorney trained in the process.

Collaborative Law attorneys must be trained in the required techniques .

Although most attorneys are adept at negotiating settlements, there are specific, unique protocols that make the Collaborative Law process successful.

Collaborative Law is a real shift in thinking for the average lawyer, and its unique process makes training a must. Even if it's your attorney's first Collaborative case, provided she/he is properly trained, it will work.

Look for an attorney trained in Collaborative Law protocols, one who also inspires your confidence, who is a good listener and who is going to be a good advocate for you - someone who will understand your needs, interests and goals.

Trained Collaborative lawyers have the same basic mindset

It's possible that your spouse or partner may select a Collaborative attorney before you find one. Sometimes that attorney has had exceptionally good experiences with certain Collaborative Law colleagues and thus, may recommend them

In the Collaborative Law process, you can choose to interview a prospective attorney recommended by your partner's attorney with more confidence. That's because trained Collaborative lawyers share the same basic goals and mindset in every Collaborative case.

It Is The Kinder, Gentler Way.

Collaborative Law is the wave of the future.

 Move on with dignity and peace

The adversarial/trial process is designed to drive a wedge between whatever remains of the marital and/or parental relationships. This emotional expense is aggravated by the increased financial costs of pursuing a divorce in the court system.

 The Collaborative way, however, is a breath of fresh air to attorneys and clients alike. When disputes arise between parties in a family context, Collaborative Law is the best way to maintain/nurture relationships, or at least to move on with your life in dignity and peace. The costs in money, other assets and emotional health are also likely to be reduced substantially.

 

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Litigation Process vs. Collaborative Process Comparisons

Litigation Process Descriptors

Parties in disputes often feel intimidated,
fearful, anxious, powerless, out gunned, and not in control. Litigation does nothing to calm this uneasiness and, in fact, a common successful litigation tactic is to make the other side so uncomfortable they are coerced into settling.

Process focused on determining blame for problems.

Unpredictable Results.

May get results that you do not want or agree with.

Unsafe atmosphere - subject to cross examination, subpoenas and depositions.

Public.

Inconvenient scheduling - court and other side may deterII1ine the parties' schedules.

Filtered process -information often exchanged subject to discovery rules and lawyer/party discretion. Often negotiate indirectly through lawyers.

Much time, money and energy spent getting ready for a trial that most likely will never occur. 90% of cases settle but 90% of legal fees are not spent on settlement efforts.

Legal expenses are not all within your control. Other side can force you to spend money on depositions, discovery and hearings that you do not want.

Cannot just "try" litigation.

Collaborative Process Descriptors

Collaborative process affirmatively seeks to make both parties feel safe, respected, in control of their lives and as comfortable as possible while working towards resolution - coercion is not part of the process. The goal of the process is to allow the safe expression and resolution of conflict.

Process focused on reaching solutions to problems.

Predictable results.

There will be no result without your express agreement

Safe atmosphere -civil, dignified, respectful.

Private and confidential.

Schedules for meetings are by agreement.

Transparent process - same information available all parties/attorneys at same time. Parties develop options and negotiate for resolution in "four way" meetings.

100% of all time, money and creative energy is spent on settlement efforts -fewer wasted financial, emotional and mental resources.

 All legal expenses are discussed and agreed upon. Legal resources and expenses are more efficiently used.

Can try collaboration -- if it does not work, you can always litigate.

 
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